If you've been to a CFFB seminar you may have heard us refer to one of our golden rules as "The D Bag Rule". What we're really talking about is your responsibility as a coach to provide an effective amount of stress on an athlete to provoke or elicit some sort of desired response without being a douche bag. Sometimes the means of stress is physical - external resistance on the system- and sometimes it's mental, but very often it's both. It's a fine line, "douche baggery" and coaching, but the most effective coaches do it with ease.
However, let's just say that you're not a coach and instead you're a lifting partner, teammate, or member. You're wondering, does The D Bag Rule really apply to me? If you're even asking that question then you are in fact a douche bag and also, yes the rule applies to you. Just because you attend practice or class like everyone else doesn't mean that you're immune to the golden rule and can't set an example potentially affecting the athletes around you…for better or worse.
A recent experience comes to mind that really helps illustrate this point. I had an athlete preparing to pull a 1RM deadlift and I could tell by looking at him that he was both excited and incredibly intimidated. At this point, I'd already given him the essential need-to-knows before he pulls his final attempt at a PR. I want him thinking about nothing else but the animalistic rage and innate survival instincts that he must utilize to make this lift. His form was dialed in, he was good and warm, his adrenaline was flowing and then out of nowhere, an athlete from the previous class saunters over and picks up the bar to "show him how easy it was".
I may be a lady...but I am a coach first.
I turned the music all the way down then I walked over to the individual who insisted on being an egregious violator of the sacred D Bag Rule. I told him exactly what I thought of him- which he found less than savory. His denial coupled with a dismissive attitude only heightened our exchange and I persisted with my point until I was certain he was receptive. This was a point worth making and unfortunately, when a person only speaks douche, you are forced to use douche as your primary means of communication. I apologized to my athlete for this terrible interruption and encouraged him to get focused and proceed with the lift when ready.
In my opinion, this type of glaring violation of The D bag Rule happens everyday in some way or another. In most cases it comes down to ego and our incessant need to exhibit some sort of superiority. The funny thing is that it generally comes from those who have very little skill or ability. These "one-uppers" feel the need to take a moment from someone else and turn it into a chance to display their own perceived development. Sadly, it seems that more often than not, this happens without the perpetrator even being aware of their own behavior.
I have had the good fortune of training with some excellent coaches and training partners throughout my life. Not surprisingly, the most effective and professional of these interactions were completely devoid of douche baggery. A good coach can see where an athlete exists in their training and recognize the holes without demoralizing a person's self confidence. Also, good coaches never exploit a lack of experience, strength, or skill by creating an opportunity to showcase their own.
We all know these people exist- some are members, some are lifting buddies, some are fellow coaches. They are the fun slaying, soul sucking, dark side of training and we are the rebellion. Be an intelligent leader and set an example for your athletes and colleagues by using the force for good. As a side note, the aforementioned athlete successfully pulled his deadlift that day. Nothing says "fuck you" like a hefty 20 lb PR.